Who’s to Blame Is a Common Question
Who’s to blame when we want to shift responsibility away from ourselves and onto others? The answer is everyone. What about when our children don’t do well in school? If you’re the teacher, blame the child or the parent. If you’re the child, blame the teacher or the principal or the principal’s teacher. Things not going well at work? If you’re the boss, blame the employees or the customers. If you’re the employee, blame the boss, the manager, the customers, the suppliers or your coworkers. There is never a shortage of blaming targets. It goes without saying that when you are not sure who’s to blame you can always answer either the government or George Bush. Alternatively, when there is a natural disaster, the answer may be God or Mother Nature.
While we tend to focus on assigning blame, we should really be thinking of why we are blaming. Typically we blame others for our responses to events and situations that we consider negative. The reality is that we alone control our actions and our responses and reactions. Thus, the answer to the ultimate question of who’s to blame when I am not happy is me. Once you are able to stop asking the question and actually take back control of your life, you will be able to give the benefit of the doubt and assume the best about others. Your stress level will decrease and your ability to focus on the positive things in your life will skyrocket. The book The Blame Game will teach you how to stop asking who’s to blame.
Learn more techniques for healthy ways of identifying who’s to blame by reading The Blame Game.
