Understanding Blame Means Understanding Ourselves
Understanding blame sounds pretty easy on the surface. We all blame, we do it often and we’ve been doing it since we were infants, so understanding it shouldn’t be too difficult. The fact is that many of us are already pretty good at understanding blame. When we think about it we know when we blame others it is either to help us or to hurt them – or sometimes it is to do both. We also know that understanding why we blame involves looking into why we sometimes blame ourselves, even for things for which we are sure we are not responsible. So is this all there is? No. As discussed in the book The Blame Game, there is more. Indeed, deeper understanding involves analyzing specifically why we blame, how, who and what we blame. However, it also entails determining the consequences of blaming others and blaming ourselves. In this way, understanding blame takes us on a deeper journey to understanding ourselves and our goals in life. Are your goals to be happy, satisfied, have low stress, have a satisfying job and be successful in your chosen career, get along well with coworkers, have a fabulous family, a wonderful spouse, many satisfied and supportive friends and psychological, emotional and physical health? If so, than understanding blame is crucial to you achieving these goals.
Blaming, on the surface, seems to make us feel better and more in control, but the reality is that you will understand that in blaming you focus on the negative, hinder relationships and actually lose control. This is the blaming paradox that is often not appreciated unless you truly focus on understanding.
Reading The Blame Game book and understanding blame will make you happier and healthier.
