No Complaining Rule: A Fundamental Concept in Blaming
The no complaining rule was established and developed by Jon Gordon. The rule is also a fundamental concept in blaming. The new book The Blame Game discusses how you can apply this important concept to quit the blame game. As complaining and blaming go hand-in-hand, the no complaining rule is a critical first step in discontinuing blaming as well as complaining. The rule essentially states that there will be no toxic, mindless complaining to any friends or coworkers about anything. Discussing important issues with managers, directors or anyone who is in a position to effect change is highly encouraged. The rule also has the caveat that when you bring up the issue, you should also have one or two potential solutions. Whenever you complain, it is hard to not accompany this with a blame. Thus the no complaining rule will not simply decrease the incidence of complaining, it will reduce the occurrence of blaming as well.
Once you apply the rule and decrease the toxic complaining and the thoughtless blaming, you can begin to enjoy the positive side of relationships. When your relationships involve blaming and complaining, the outcome is negative interactions, lack of trust and lack of respect. Utilizing the no complaining rule to decrease blaming will help your relationships flourish and instill trust and respect. The rule as discussed in The Blame Game will help you regain control of your life as you take responsibility for your actions and your responses. When you give people the benefit of the doubt and attribute what appear to be negative situations to external causes rather than other peoples’ personalities, you will stop blaming others and not need any rules.
Stop complaining! Read The Blame Game to find out how and why the no complaining rule works!
