Don’t blame me – it’s his fault
One of the primary purposes of blaming is to shift responsibility away from ourselves and onto others. As such we are all guilty of exclaiming “Don’t blame me.” Unless we really had nothing to do with what happened – then we might just take the blame, be the martyr and give others the opportunity to refute this. Otherwise, “Don’t blame me” just rolls off the tongue like “It’s his fault”. While “don’t blame me” is defensive, many blames are actually delivered with intent to do harm. We usually don’t end there; instead, we quickly follow up with a statement of specifically who to blame.
We it into blaming family, friends, coworkers, spouses and strangers. We blame inanimate objects, God, nature and government. As long as we can adequately shift responsibility we can avoid being accountable. However, shifting blame hinders relationships, focuses our lives on negativity, stunts our personal growth and causes many diseases. When you can stop you will be on your way to improved psychological, physical and emotional health and well-being. The first step is to take personal responsibility for your life and your decisions. Appreciate the fact that you are in control of your destiny.
You are accountable for your actions and your responses to other people’s action. When you fully appreciate that you will stop blaming others. Now you’ve been duly warned, so don’t blame me.
Reading The Blame Game is one way to start taking responsibility for your actions and stop saying, “don’t blame me”.
