Blame in Relationships Shows a Lack of Responsibility
Relationships are interesting things. We all want to have healthy relationships, yet we are all somewhat self-destructive when we blame in relationships. One of the fastest ways to destroy a friendship or marriage is with the use of blame. Even if the relationship is valuable and productive, when you have blame in relationships, you devalue the other person and show a lack of trust, respect and empathy. As discussed in the new book The Blame Game, blame is a major cause of sibling rivalry, poor communication and divorce. Blame in work relationships is also a significant factor in poor job performance, job dissatisfaction and actively disengaged employees. When blame occurs, this is also a sign that there is a lack of responsibility. It may be tempting to blame and you may even feel better, but the negative consequences of blame in relationships is significant and long-lasting. When there is blame in relationships, not only do you hurt the one who you are blaming, you also hurt yourself. If you ever hear anyone blaming someone behind their back, what is your first thought? This is someone who complains, blames, and doesn’t take responsibility.
You will also think that they are probably blaming and complaining about you behind your back. This leads to a lack of trust and respect – not a great foundation for relationships. When you start to move beyond blame in relationships and focus on positive, productive communication, all your relationships will flourish. You will find that you will be more open-minded and seen by others as confident and self-sufficient. When you can replace blame with praise in relationships, your satisfaction with work, family and friends will thrive, and your happiness levels will climb in a spiral of positivity.
Learn to avoid blame in relationships by reading The Blame Game.
