Blame Games: Finding a Target and Shifting Responsibility
Blame games go on every day in every country and have for millennia. We practice these games from a very young age and become quite proficient. We identify targets of blame and then work toward shifting responsibility to those targets. Blame games are not limited to human targets: yes, we can blame family, friends, spouses, acquaintances, neighbors, coworkers, teachers and students, bosses, and millions of other people. But we can also play blame games with inanimate objects, pets, weather, God, nature, government and a host of other concepts and things. “The Devil made me do it,” is blaming Satan. It starts raining and spoils your picnic; you could blame the weather, Mother Nature, the universe or God. On the surface, blame games seem to help relieve us from responsibility, but what they really do is hurt us by taking away control over our lives. Often blame is used in deceitful or blatant ways to intentionally harm someone else. However, even when games are played innocently or casually, they have detrimental effects on both the blamee (target of blame) and the blamer.
When we don’t succeed at some activity, we can point fingers at our parents, genetics, faulty body parts or our teachers for a lack of a good education. But where does that get us? Playing games hinders relationships; causes us to focus on negativity which results in psychological, physical and emotional ills; and makes us give up control of our lives. The Blame Game book is empowering by providing simple lessons to quit blaming, regain control of your life, enhance your relationships, improve your mental and physical health and actualize your potential.
How can we take responsibility for our own actions and avoid the blame game? Reading The Blame Game is one way to start!
